Depression can be a dark and desolate place. The only thing you have is yourself and your dark thoughts. The help and support from others is a very important part on the road to recovery, but disclosing your mental ill-health to others is not an easy thing to do, it takes a considerable amount of courage, especially due to the preconceived ideas people have of those with mental illness. Maybe you are thinking; how are people going to react when I tell them? Will they think less of me? Have I failed? The fact remains, depression is not something you can overcome without some kind of help. You can’t just ‘snap out of it’. The emotional stress of having to cope with depression on your own can be too much of a responsibility to bear.
There are no quick fixes to feeling better, but opening up to someone you trust and making some positive changes in your life will help you get there.
As someone who suffers with depression, I bottled up my symptoms for many years. I avoided seeking any help because I was just too embarrassed to tell anyone. Friends knew very little about what I was really going through, and my family had no idea. After all, they have their own worries, why would I want to burden them with my problems. However, don’t let depression stop you from seeking help. It’s not a sign of weakness and you’re not burdening others with your problems. But, when you feel like you have no one else to talk to, the burden can be overwhelming. I did have some counselling many years ago but I didn’t feel it helped me. Counselling doesn’t work for everyone. I thought I could sort it out myself, but I was wrong. I’ve now been taking antidepressants on and off for years.
Having depression makes you withdrawn, then leading to isolation. It can be hard to even face the day, let alone socialising with friends and family. When I’m having a bad patch I’d hide myself away from the world, avoid social events, and lose touch with friends. None of these actions are intentional, but it’s what the effects of depression does to me.
You won’t get the help and support you need unless you find the strength to tell others. It’s important to reach out and tell people how you’re feeling, whether that be a family member, close friend, or even a local support group; you will even find mental health support groups on social media sites such as Facebook. Knowing that you’re not alone and have someone else to confide in about your problems may even help to ease some of your symptoms of depression. It’s like a great weight has been lifted off your shoulders. Those you tell will learn how to spot your symptoms over time, and while they won’t be able to solve your problems they can be there to offer support, and sometimes a shoulder to cry on.
You will be surprised how much support there is out there, and how many others have gone through similar experiences.
You are not alone.